A Whole New Level

Posted by: Andee / Category: , ,


Some parents take things way too far.

I am not talking about Molly-Mormon dishing out guilt until her son goes on his mission. Not talking about Dads pushing their sons to earning the elusive eagle scout. Nope.

This is something different.

The other day I had a conversation with a young woman from a different state. Her parents sent her to college in Utah in hopes that she could find a lovely return missionary and marry in the temple. Wait... there's more.

Not only did they send her to Utah for school for this purpose, they put a clause in her trust fund. If she doesn't marry her return missionary in the temple, she doesn't get a trust fund that was set up for her.

I was very open and honest with her as I shared my disbelief that any parent would do this to their child. This is evidence, to me, that their love isn't unconditional. They would rather see her married to some guy in a temple than HAPPY.

What the fuck?

Andee


3 comments:

  1. Mere Says:

    Isn't this the way most TBM parents work though? It's not just clauses in trust funds- for a lot of families, if you don't marry a RM and get married in the temple, you're just as shunned and cut out. At least her asshole parents are honest assholes.

  1. [kɹeɪ̯ɡ̊] Says:

    Actually Mere is right. I've experienced this first hand - being cut off financially (even though they said they'd pay for my undergraduate, and they can well afford it) the second I mention that I'm thinking of leaving Mormonism.

    But I think it is actually funny (and really sad) that those parents actually put it in writing.

    Mormonism is so fucked up.

  1. Anonymous Says:

    When I left an awful 15-month stint at BYU to return to California and find a more suitable place to complete my education, I was cut off financially. Financial support was conditional upon staying at BYU. I was a first child, and a daughter. Luckily for my younger brother, no such restrictions were put on him. (This was partially because he was male, but also because he had the courage to stand up against the family's forced participation in "the church" *before* he reached college age. I admire him for that.)