Common Courtesy

Posted by: Andee / Category:

Time for a rant... sorry, needs to happen.

As I have mentioned before, I have worked with the public for about 15 or so years. Here are just a few things that get on my nerves...


Restaurants...

  • When you go out to eat in a restaurant, you shouldn't blame your waiter or waitress for mistakes made by the kitchen staff. Not leaving a tip for the server isn't really proving anything. It's not his/her fault that it happened...
  • When you are dining out, remember you *are* are guest in their establishment. Please don't run around (let your kids run around is more like it) stand on chairs, or make a huge mess just because you can. How would you feel if someone did this to your place of business?
  • If a restaurant host or hostess takes you to a table that you don't like, don't be rude about it. Just ask nicely. They take you to certain tables because they are trying to make sure all servers get the same chance to make tips.
  • Remember that most servers make very, very little per hour and most of their income depends on tips. If you have horrible service it's one thing... but there is nothing stopping you from being generous and saying thank you. "Thank you" goes a long way.
  • Waiters and Waitresses are not dumb. If you talk to your server like they are below you, or treat them as if that is the only job they can hack, you are mistaken. Serving is hard work, and 90% of the time, your server is trying to make ends meet.
  • If you walk out on the bill, it comes from the server's pocket. It's not a funny thing to do, or an adventurous evening for you and your friends. You are taking money out of the pocket of someone who could be a single parent or college student. How would you feel if you went to work and walked out with less money than you walked in with?
  • If you are dining with a large group of people, gratuity will more than likely be added to your check automatically. This varies from restaurant to restaurant, and the number of people can also vary... I have seen everything from 6-8 people getting an auto-gratuity.
  • If you are paying an automatic gratuity, you can still tip extra if your server did a good job. Keep in mind that keeping a table that large organized is hard work, could you do it?
  • If you are rude and nasty to your server, you should remember that they have access to your food. I am not saying that anyone I have ever worked for has done something like spit in your food, but it's just common sense. Don't be mean to the person who has the chance to get even... especially without you knowing about it.
  • If you are splitting checks with everyone on the table, or if you are paying for a child that is sitting at a different table, tell the server before you order. If you wait until the last minute, it's going to take some time to fix things on their computer! You are the one who waited to give the info, so getting angry at the person trying to help you won't make matters any better.... or faster. It's not their fault.
  • While dining out, remember that pushing tables together without asking first can cause problems for the restaurant. One of the places I worked for was once written by the fire marshal because tables were pushed together and there wasn't a clear path to the exit doors. Also, keep in mind that pushing tables together might mean that you are stealing a table from another server who won't be making any money while you occupy their table.
  • If you order a steak or hamburger well-done, don't be surprised that it takes a while for your food to come out. It takes a while to cook! If you go into a place and order before the table next to you, and their food comes out before yours, look at what they are eating! If they are munching on a salad and you are waiting for your fancy-schmancy dinner you should chill the hell out!
  • This one seems obvious, but it should be said... if you have food allergies, call the restaurant ahead of time to make sure they have a way to prepare your food so that it doesn't come into contact with the item you are allergic to!
  • Be understanding. If the place is packed with people, and your server is running around like a chicken with his/her head cut off, you could be a little kinder when realizing you need a refill on your Diet Coke. Most of the time they are doing the best they can.
  • Be kind. If you want good service, you should treat the server with respect. If you are rude, they are not going to go out of their way to help you out. It's common sense.

Theme Parks...

  • All rides have wait times. You are in a theme park, the rides are busy, and you are going to have to wait. Getting mad at the employees won't make your line go any faster, and it certainly won't gain you any points if you need their help at all.
  • You will need to put the cute little stuffed animals you won at the carnival games somewhere while you ride the rides. Seems pretty straightforward, huh? You would be surprised how many people screamed at me when they couldn't take their 4 foot purple puppy-dog on the rollercoaster. No, I am not kidding.
  • If you see a fence, don't go past it. Fences are there for your safety. If you get caught going through a fence that states guests should keep out, you will probably get escorted out by security. Don't be stupid.
  • If you are going to see a show, make note of the time the show starts and try to be there 15 minutes early. If the show takes place inside with a dark theater, the employees will more than likely have to ask you to come back to the next show because opening the doors will ruin the effects for everyone else. This isn't the employee's fault. If they tell you they can't let you in the show after it has started, they mean it. They can't. Do you think they want to make people mad at them because it's so much fun? Don't you think their lives would be easier if they could just let you in the show? It would. I speak from experience.
  • Don't force your kids to ride something they are afraid of. Most employees refuse to put a child on the ride, even though you want them to. Forcing your kid to do stuff like this is really messed up in my opinion.
  • Remember that you are on vacation. Take it easy. Sure, there are lots of things to say and do, but how much fun are you going to have if you are too stressed out about seeing everything? Take it easy and have some fun. Remember that you are making memories for your kids, don't make them bad memories.
  • Drink water, and lots of it. Seems like a "duh" thing, but you would be surprised if I could possibly count the times I had to call health services because you were dehydrated. It's going to be hot, you are going to be walking around, and you are going to need to drink water.
  • Don't ever ask an employee this question: "Excuse me miss, what time does the three o'clock parade start?" *insert mental picture of me banging my head against the wall.*
  • Your kid cannot ride on your lap. No excuse or reason should be good enough. It's not safe, and if your kid got hurt on the ride the park would be liable. Don't give the employees a hard time if you don't get your way. This goes for height as well. If you are not tall enough, you are out of luck. Remember that if your kid was to get hurt, you would have wished that you would have listened to the person operating the ride.
  • If you are getting photos taken with a cartoon character mascot, remember that there is someone inside that suit. That person is hotter than hell, thirsty, and sometimes on the verge of passing out. Really. If the person escorting the character tells the crowd that the character has to go, be understanding. If you put yourself in their shoes, you might just understand.
  • It's very obvious when people are making up things to get stuff for free. Once, a guy told me that some employee kicked him out of a line at the most popular attraction and he didn't do anything wrong. He wanted to be "compensated" for what happened. We are not going to believe stories like that because it wouldn't happen. If you want something for nothing you are out of luck. Everyone else waited in line, and so can you.
  • Get a park map. Again, another "duh" but you would be surprised.
  • Don't walk up to an employee with a funny-looking themed outfit and name tag and say, "Do you work here?" No, I just really like this ensemble.
  • Food and drink will be expensive. Expect it. Not the employee's fault.
  • Obey the rules, they are rules for a reason.

Stores...

  • If you are having trouble with an item that you bought in a store, and you return it, it's not the employee's fault the item was defective. It's a manufacturer problem. Getting angry and rude isn't proving anything except that you are mean and nasty to people that are trying to help you.
  • Keep your receipts! Especially if you buy something expensive! Most stores have return policies in which you can still return an item without a receipt, but you will more than likely get store credit. You are not getting store credit because the employee wants to upset you, it's just how it is. They don't make the rules.
  • If you go to a self-checkout location be patient with the attendant at the computer station overseeing the whole thing. There is usually 1 attendant per 4 checkout machines. If the store is busy, so are they. They don't like getting yelled at, and they certainly don't enjoy dealing with angry people. If you want them to help you, it won't kill you to be nice.

I guess it all comes down to treating people how you would want to be treated, huh? Why is that so hard for so many people?


6 comments:

  1. Anonymous Says:

    Love it! Also, for call centers-it isn't the person answering the phone fault the company you are calling sucks. Don't abuse them!

  1. steve-o Says:

    I agree with most of the post, but I also have to say that people on the front lines should expect people to get angry sometimes. A lot of people in call centers only exacerbate the problem by refusing to take responsibility in any way despite they are their employer's link to their customers. No customer is going to be happy when the company, by way of the call center employee, will not take responsibility for a problem.

    I agree that people should treat each other with respect, but I also have to say that I find most of the service I get in restaurants and stores to be quite poor. More often than not these days, I get servers in restaurants who act like it's my privilege to get them as my server. And when I get treated poorly, I tip poorly. A tip is a privilege, not a right. And as for retail stores, well, most employees I see seem to care little about making customers feel welcome or about helping them. As an employee of one of the biggest retailers in the world, it really bothers me, because I see so much criticism of my employer because of the poor service our employees provide.

    Good call on the receipts and return policies, by the way. Those policies are only in place because a small percentage of people insist on gaming the system. And to that small percentage of people, I only have this to say: thanks for ruining it for the rest of us.

  1. Andee Says:

    Steve-O,

    I agree that people have the right to get angry. It's just that most of the time you are projecting your anger at someone who has nothing to do with the situation, and is trying to help you. When you approach someone in anger, they are going to turn off, and stop giving a damn about your problem. I speak from experience.

    Call center employees usually don't work for the company they are answering phones for. Weird, but true. I worked for one once that answered phone calls from a large cable company, but they certainly didn't get paid by the company. We were not the ones who messed up your cable package, or made the cable guy late... we are the ones who have to fix things! Again, yelling and screaming won't help. It just makes the person on the other end of the phone stop caring about helping you.

    I am also an employee of one of the biggest retailers in the world, and my company goes out of it's way to try to get it's employees to be kind and helpful. I certainly do my best.

    It's just plain wrong to take our your anger and frustration on someone who has nothing to do with it. If they are rude to you, if they don't want to help you, it's another thing... but starting off on the wrong foot is just a waste of everyone's time.

  1. Anonymous Says:

    Steve-O, I do understand where you are coming from, but front line staff has little to no authority to do anything. So you are often getting mad at someone getting paid $8 an hour and has been instructed that they cannot give the client anything outside the box.

  1. steve-o Says:

    I understand this, but that's why employees should escalate (and they usually can). Every company has front-line policies, but those policies don't fit every possible circumstance. A robotic, cookie-cutter response to a problem is only going to further infuriate a customer.

    Companies are likely more to blame for this than the employees themselves. Cost-cutting measures like call center outsourcing don't typically lead to better customer service. And, as Andee pointed out, they often don't feel the same level of responsibility as a regular company employee might because they're just contractors. To a customer, however, it doesn't matter. If you answer the phones for the company, you work for the company, and you should try to fix problems. Telling someone "it's not my fault" (and many call center employees who were obviously not regular company employees have said this to me) doesn't solve problems.

    I think what I said previously was misinterpreted as an endorsement for angry customers, but it wasn't. I merely said that it should be an expectation when you have a job like that. I had multiple call center jobs when I was in college; it was just the nature of the job.

  1. Andee Says:

    My point with the article wasn't to say that front-line employees are never at fault.

    What I am saying is that treating them badly because of something they had no control over is out of line.

    You can speak to them calmly, explain the problem, and ask for a manager if necessary. There isn't any need to be rude to these people unless they are being rude to you.

    I understand where you are coming from Steve-O, but taking out your anger on someone who truly had nothing to do with the problem in the first place is just... well... mean.